
It has occurred to me recently that Americans love to complain. Now, that wouldn’t be so bad if we could all say that we balance these negative comments with positive ones. But sadly, few of us do. Nothing is safe from our lamenting…the weather…our paychecks….our spouses…our kids….our bodies….need I go on? What’s worse is if you think about our social interactions, what are we talking about? Chances are, we’re complaining to our friends or family about probably our friends or family.
Other cultures, from what I’ve unscientifically observed, do not complain as much as we do. Yet we profess to be the greatest country in the world! If it’s so great, why do we complain so much? Is it because we are so self-centered? Short sighted perhaps?
British people seem to complain a lot less than we do. In fact, they apologize for the most ordinary things, “sorry” is a staple word in their vocabulary. And when asked how things are going, they commonly reply “fantastic” regardless that their marriage is in the dumps, their children are hooked on drugs and they just lost their job. So why can’t we show a little fortitude and restraint?
We have a lot to be thankful for! (Yes, I just said something positive, despite the “looming depression,” the downward spiraling stock market, the fact that I just lost my job, and the costs of most necessities are rising.)…now that wasn’t so hard.
In less than a week, we as a nation will celebrate “Turkey Day.” Wait a minute…it’s actually called THANKSgiving. It’s not the turkey that should be the focus here. Get it? This is strictly an American holiday, so let’s take the opportunity to prove that we CAN do it. We can be positive!
So, here’s your assignment:
Lets all suck it up, atleast for the next week, and talk to our co-workers, family and friends about what kindness you witnessed (ie a stranger let you go in front of him at the backed up grocery checkout), instead of complaining of the bitter cold, focus on the beautiful cardinal at your birdfeeder or the Currier & Ives-like snowfall you see as you drive to work. Instead of grinding your teeth because your spouse again left their clothes on the floor, remember he set up the coffee maker the night before so that you could wake to it’s wonderful smell and it is ready and hot waiting for you. Let’s show some thanks for a change.